7 Tips to Stay Sane as a Stay-at-Home Mom and Homemaker
If your days are anything like mine, you probably spend just about all of your time with your kids. When they are babies you are practically with them 24/7 until they start sleeping for longer stretches. Your days revolve are your little ones and their moods and needs and it is so easy to go crazy. Add on housework and you have got your hand full. It’s easy to feel like you’re losing your mind.
And mamas - there is no need to feel guilty when you feel claustrophobic around your kids. It’s only natural that when you are being climbed on and touched and needed by your kids, almost 24/7 that you get a little claustrophobic and burnt out.
Next time you feel like you’d rather rip your hair out than fold another load of laundry or change another diaper, try one of the seven items below, to help you stay sane as a stay-at-home mom and homemaker.
Tips for Staying Sane as a Stay-at-Home Mom and Homemaker
This is something that everyone, not just mamas, needs to do. You need to take time for yourself and mama, I promise that you are NOT SELFISH FOR TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF. If you’ve been around Joyful Homemaker’s Club for a little while, you’ve probably heard me say my favorite quote, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Yes, often as moms, especially during the newborn stages, we have to run on empty but it’s so important to at least take a few minutes for yourself. A new mom in my Facebook group (where we have a comment thread every Saturday to encourage you to take time for self-care) said that with her 2-week old her self-care was taking a shower while her husband watched their daughter. That counts as self-care! When your kids are older, your self-care time may be longer and will probably look different. In my current stage, my biggest self-care time is in the mornings, you can check out my morning right by clicking here.
Go on Kid-Free Dates
Ya’ll need some alone time. Having kid-free time is so vital to keeping that fire alive that first sparked when you were dating all those years ago. Side note: I literally cannot believe that we started dating SIX YEARS AGO. Time really does fly when you’re having fun! If finding child care so that you can have a kid-free date is a struggle for you guys, here are a few ideas:
☞ Ask some teenagers in your church. I started babysitting when I was like 11 (I watched kids who were around 5 or 6, not babies) and we have a little list of high schoolers from our church we can call in a pinch.
☞Trade with friends. You take their kids so they can have a date night and then they take your kids so you can have a date night! Who can say no to that!?
Have a Hobby
This could kind of be tied into self-care because practicing your hobby is a form of self-care but it’s a good one so I thought it deserved it’s own spot on the list. I do not love housework. I would not do well JUST doing housework all day, I need something to break up my days and to use as a form of self-care. You can have one hobby or you can have twenty hobbies, do what works for you! In my course The Stay-at-Home Mom’s Guide to Life, I have an entire section on hobbies; including worksheets to help you get better at your hobby or for finding a new hobby and a giant list of hobbies to try!
Spend Time with God
By starting my day off in the Bible, I am steering myself in the right direct for the rest of the day. Give your worries to God and trust Him to help you through your day.
Spend Time with Friends
Send out a 911 / We're gonna have some fun / Hey boy, you know / You better run / Cause it's a girl's night / It's alright without you / I'm gonna stay out / And play out without you / You better hold tight / This girl's night is without you / Let's go / G.N.O. / Let's go / It's a girl's night
Oh my heavens! Does anyone else think of that Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana song when you hear, “girl’s night?” Or is it just me?.......
Hannah Montana was onto something though, taking time to connect with fellow mamas and old friends helps you recharge, helps you feel like you aren’t alone in your struggles, and it helps your friends as well!
Right now I am trying to get my home organization under control, ‘cause things are kind of a hot mess. When the house is unorganized, it leaves me anxious and overwhelmed and frustrated. If you need help getting started, check out my free email course The 7-Day Clean House Challenge and if you need organization and inspiration, I highly recommend the ClutterBug Youtube channel. I’ve also recently started a new method for sort of “brain dumping” everything in my mind, I was so overwhelmed I needed to get everything out of my head and in front of me on paper. I did a Facebook live in my Facebook Group, The Joyful Homemakers, on my new method. Join the group by clicking here and then click here to get the link to see the recorded live chat. You will only be able to view the video once you’ve joined the group.
When something pops up that COMPLETELY changes our routine, I pretty much go crazy. With regular routines you (mostly) know what to expect and when to expect it. You need to be a little bit flexible but do your best to stick to some sort of routine and you will for sure stay sane.
How do you stay sane as a stay-at-home mom and homemaker? Hop over to my Facebook group and introduce yourself and tell me how you stay safe as a mama and homemaker.
I’ll just be over pretending I don’t still remember the words to G.N.O. by Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus……...