I’ve been open about my dealings with anxiety and postpartum depression and today I want to talk to you about that postpartum fog that just about every deals with.
You know that fog where you feel like you’re living in a shell of yourself, you know who you are and what you believe in and you know the people you care about but there’s some kind of fog blocking ou from truly connecting with the world.
It’s scary. I know, I’ve been there. I’m still there. But now I can see through that fog even if I can’t always push through it.
Some of that fog comes with postpartum depression but most moms deal with some form of “the fog” and the length that you deal with it can vary.
If you’re a new mama and you just don’t feel like yourself, you may still be inside of that fog.
My goal with this post is to give you actionable steps and hope to help you get through this postpartum time when you just don’t feel like yourself.
Here are two things for you to remember and do when you’re inside of that fog and can’t find your way out.
#1 Remember who you are
On those days when you really don’t feel like yourself and you’re having a bit of an identity crisis, grab a piece of paper and write down who you are. I know, it sounds a little silly but it will help. Write down your name, your morals and beliefs, your favorite hobbies and activities, your dreams and goals, and the names of your family members and friends and what you love about them. Read over it on the days when you don’t feel like yourself to remind yourself who you are, what you believe in, and who you love. It will help to ground you and reconnect with yourself.
| “Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him.” Psalm 62:5 NLT
Ask God to give you hope and strength as you go through your day. Ask Him to remind you who you are and to protect you in the fog. Remember that this really is just a season and it will end. It may feel like forever but in the span of your lifetime, it will just be a speck.
I’ve created a lovely printable art piece for you to download featuring Psalm 62:5. Print it out (it’s 8.5”x11” so you can print it right at home) and hang it as a reminder that your hope comes from the Lord. You can find it in my resource library in the “faith” section.
#3 Ask for help
When you’re feeling like this it is SO SO SO important that you let your support system know how you are feeling. These feelings could lead to something more so it’s important that your husband and support sytem know what is going on. If you need to, see a therapist. I see one and after just a few sessions with my therapist I started to be able to see my way through the fog. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help, it doesn’t mean you’re weak or failing, in fact it means just the opposite! You are strong and brave when you ask for help! If you don’t feel like you have a good support system, make sure you check out my course The Stay-at-Home Mom’s Guide to Life, there’s a whole section on community and building a support system (complete with videos and helpful worksheets!).
Just remember, that it is just a season, it will end and someday there will be no fog. Remember who you are, remember to pray, and don’t be afraid to ask for help and soon you’ll be able to see more clearly through the fog.